“Courage is found in unlikely places” - J.R.R. Tolkien

…for a person to find positivity in difficult times… that’s true courage.

Can you think of one person that you have known in your life who ALWAYS has a smile on their face? Hayley was such a person. No matter what health issues Hayley faced, I recall her all through high school and later when we reconnected as a truly inspirational, positive and appreciative person.
Hayley’s brother shared this yesterday and when I asked if I could post it, he said it would be what she would want…for people to just appreciate everything they have.
I was sent a snippet from an e-mail from a friend of Hayley’s a while back, that can hopefully give us all a little wake up call about the ridiculous things we complain about everyday.

This was in October 2009…She got worse physically but her attitude never changed!
“I had a hip replacement in march and got a blood disease and landed up in a coma on life support with a 15% chance of living – the power of prayer definitely got me through – am now in a wheelchair after 6 months in hospital and am slowly learning to walk – have put on 100 pounds and am a beautiful site…. but i am alive. So nu, I am living in Toronto and loving it – have the perfect life – my bedroom is always full of friends and food and what more could a girl want.”
Perhaps we can use this message to look at our lives and instead of comparing or complaining about that which we don’t have, rather have gratitude for every little thing we do have!
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xo -kl


ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE – don’t be so hard on yourself – we are used to comparing ourselves to others and it is in these comparisons the feelings of inadequacy arise, of worthlessness, of fear, of lack of… (STOP… don’t fill in your negative thoughts anymore) You are enough as you are.

We are all different…all process and experience the world in our own way, however we are conditioned from an early age to “color between the lines” or “fit in the box” – do what everyone else does so as not to stand out and be different. In past years, integrity; honesty; compassion; creative exploration; individuality were not emphasized as much as A’s; preschool to college acceptances; and being “good” children. Yet trying to be someone else and ignoring or suppressing our true self will leave us searching for answers. Accepting our strengths, limitations, likes, fears, desires, quirks…allows us to be true to ourselves and is freeing. When you start accepting yourself, others will too!

“The 1st step to happiness is accepting yourself” -Steven G.


Life happens – choose 2bepositive™

xo -kl

I landed at LAX not knowing what to expect for our first day of shooting the new 2BePositive campaign. Rushing into wardrobe, I was instantly put at ease by the positivity guru herself, Keren Lynn, as she pulled out my first of many looks we called, “The Happy Hippie”.

In most circumstances and because of my performing background, I’m usually pretty outgoing, comfortable and social. However, as soon as we stepped onto Santa Monica Pier, I felt a little self-conscious in my pink fishnet top and funky hippy-hat ensemble. Keren quickly stuck a big lollipop in my mouth, asked a boardwalk clown to make me a princess balloon hat, and forced me to squish my tush into a kiddie mechanical monkey car.

In less than an hour, Keren helped to expose my inner child’s sense of wonderment and imagination. It was almost as if I was a little girl again; the little girl with curly hair and zero inhibitions.

My name, Allegra, means happy. It’s how I choose to live each day. And it’s a feeling I LOVE to spread. We all have our “stuff”, the “stuff” that we sometimes wish would magically disappear.We sometimes pay attention to that silly voice in our head who whispers fear and self-doubt. (more…)


How do you choose to live life when it happens?

“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” –J.K. Rowling

Do you get stuck in the same pattern, making the same choices, perhaps based on expectations that you have programmed to believe are the only way…Do you ever ask yourself WHY you do the things you do? Is it out of expectation; guilt; to please; fear; lack of motivation; unhappiness…?

The way you react to situations is your choice. You may not want to accept or admit it, you may want to blame others and refuse to take responsibility. You can look to others for answers but the reality is family and friends are there to guide you and the ultimate decision is yours. Someone else can’t “make” you feel sad or mad any more than they can make you happy. It is your attitude that affects your life. “Life” happens to everyone and what you do with that experience is ultimately your CHOICE. This is your life, made up entirely of your actions, your thoughts, your choices.

What would happen if you take ownership of your choices, without blame, or guilt, or fear…if you looked at what made you happy or unhappy, and made new choices, the right choices for you. Sometimes all you need is to realize that nothing is permanent and that you CAN make changes… the choice is yours!

Life happens…choose to be…(fill in your choice)

Life happens – choose 2bepositive™

xo -kl



An example of how to live one’s life…
“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered;

Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives:

Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends, and genuine enemies;

Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you;

Be honest and sincere anyway
What you spend years creating others could destroy overnight:

Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.

Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten.

Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it may never be enough:

Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God:

it was never between you and them anyway.”- Mother Teresa


Life happens – choose 2bepositive™

xo -kl



by Steven (9 years old) July 21st 2006

I had a struggle in my life
and it was hard times for me
but I got through them
cause I gained strength and knowledge
and I can’t help thinking about them

And as my life goes on
I will keep gaining from my family
cause my family gave me support
and they gave me strength
cause they were always there for me
and they gave me love

And when I had the struggles
I tried to break out of it
and eventually I did
and I got to come home
and my family came everyday
to where I was struggling

Because I love them -
they’re always good to me
always there for me
and I love them
cause they’re always kind to me

What we need in this world
is for everyone to be kind
and supportive to others
who are having a hard time
because this is what I learned
because this is what happened to me
and it was a great experience
because I learned to be supportive and kind to others.

We all have experiences in life that give us the opportunity to grow and gain strength from.  Experiences that re-enforce  the love of family and friends, the kindness of strangers, the needs of others, the suffering in the world, and the beauty surrounding us….but not all of us choose to or  perhaps know how to be grateful for these things.  (more…)

What does it mean to Pay it Forward? It is true selfless giving. Have you ever been in a situation where a random stranger steps into your life and does something totally wonderful and unexpected…and then like a skilled magician…disappears?

Today was a beautiful example of such an event.

If you have a thought to do something for another person, act on it…instead of thinking…”I’m just one person, what difference can I really make?” Caroline wanted to do something to help Courtney after a very serious motorcycle accident. With the support of Michaelangelo salon where she works, she organized a bake sale. Caroline contacted me to photograph the event through a mutual friend, and I am so happy to share the excitement of day one.

Not only was today about strangers doing things for others but a community coming together to help someone they didn’t even know. Teamwork at it’s best as I watched people bringing baked goods; buying; donating; sharing and bonding with each other. $2200 was raised in a short amount of time (not including online donations ). (more…)


What does RESPECT mean to you?

My parents and grandparents taught me “the golden rule” which is to treat others as you wish to be treated. To me this means being aware of other peoples needs, showing compassion; patience; kindness; tolerance and respect. People change and grow when the time is right for them, just as you and I have reached each stage of our journey. We believe our way is right, and it is..for us, but we are not the other person so who are we to say what we think, feel and believe is best for them? And so we need to respect each person as the individual that they are.

With the word of the week being RESPECT, take this opportunity to practice being respectful towards others. Try some of these tips…
1. Accept individuals as they are not who you want them to be. We need to realize that there is no one person who can have every quality like a checklist. So accept and appreciate what each person has to offer.
2. Don’t be so quick to judge – whether you know someone or not, you don’t live their life, you don’t experience their emotions. (more…)

Be Positive

Life isn’t just about keeping score.
It’s not about how many people call you
And it’s not about who you’ve dated or haven’t dated at all.
It isn’t about who you’ve kissed,
What sport you play,
Or which guy or girl likes you.
It’s not about your shoes or your hair
Or the color of your skin,
Or where you live or go to school.
In fact it’s not about grades, money,
Clothes, or colleges that accept you or not.
Life isn’t about if you have lots of friends or if you are alone,
And it’s not about how accepted or unaccepted you are.
Life isn’t about that.

But life is about who you love and who you hurt.
It’s about how you feel about yourself.
It’s about trust, happiness, and compassion.
It’s about avoiding jealousy, overcoming ignorance
And building confidence.
It’s about what you say and what you mean.
It’s about seeing people for who they are and not for what they have.
Most of all it is choosing to use your life.
In a way that could have never been achieved otherwise.
These choices are what life’s about.

Source: Unknown


Life happens – choose 2bepositive™

xo -kl

Let Go, Forgive, Be Grateful, Keep it Simple, Trust Yourself

Let Go. Forgive. Be Grateful. Keep it Simple. Trust Yourself. Be Happy.

Let Go of the things you can’t control, of the anger, and the comparisons, the hurt and resentment – these things affect you more than anyone else and stop you from growing and moving forward.

Forgive those who you “think” have made you angry and realize perhaps you allowed them to have that effect on you. Be thankful you can learn from the lessons.

Be grateful for all that you have. Step back and look at the big picture…what really matters in the world? Everyone is faced with their own set of challenges and rarely would you choose someone else’s! We are so fortunate to have all that we have. If you are reading this, it means you have access to a computer / smart phone / electricity / wifi… that you are able to read or hear if someone else is reading it, or communicate… live your life with an attitude of gratitude.

Keep it Simple. Life is simple yet we complicate it for some reason. Look at your life and see how you might be able to eliminate something to simplify life just a little. Set some goals to de-clutter your life.

Trust Yourself. Listen to your gut instinct. Think with your feelings instead of always trying to rationalize everything. If you feel it, trust it!

Be Happy – it is a choice, and it’s yours to make.

Life happens – choose 2bepositive™

xo -kl